If this isn't what I'm supposed to be doing...what should I be doing?

I was at my third job of the day, it was 9pm at night and all I could think about as I left my office was if I would be able to meet the Chinese delivery guy in the driveway before they closed for the evening. I worked hard—for my degrees (undergraduate and masters), I climbed the ladder of what I was “supposed” to do in becoming a psychotherapist.Read more

The Summer of Slow

I'm exhausted. The last few months, I have felt like a duck in water--it looks all good on the surface but my feet are feverishly paddling down below to stay afloat. And I'm worn out. While the days have been filled with so many good things--from launches to ballet recitals, memorials and birthday parties to new friendships, concerts, and roadtrips. It's the first month of the summer and I need to reset and refresh.

When we are busy doing things we don't want to do, it feels daunting and we can lose steam easily, but when our days are packed with the good stuff, tired feels like it just sneaks up on you.

I'm making a case for slowing down this summer.

I'm looking down the road at a beautiful stretch of summer ahead and I want to savor it. I want to relish in each and every moment, looking back in the fall and winter to come with a smile on my face and faded tan lines from a summer well spent.

So much of how I've built my business and my life has been about hustle culture >> Go. Do. Push. Make it work. Do more.

And here's the thing--it worked. I grew a business from absolutely nothing that is now nearly 10 years old. I'm very proud of it and I realize that what it took to get me to where I am in my career won't be the same skillset that I am relying on going forward.

My "hustle muscles" won't atrophy but I think for the start of summer, I'm feeling inspired to slow down and put myself on the menu.

The team met last week to talk about our summer plans--all the things to launch and the new programs to roll out and run, and while I'm excited to share it with you all, I think a bit of rest is in order.

Time to reset, reflect, and reconnect with myself (and I hope you are inspired to time some time too).

I always say that no one is going to come and knock on your door and tell you that it's time to rest, that's something that you choose for yourself. It's very easy (and quite alluring) to stay on the hamster wheel of hustle and busy. For so many of us, it's what we have always known.

But I'm making a case for pulling the arrow back this summer so we can shoot it further ahead down the road. To rejuvenate and truly savor each moment that lies in wait ahead of you.

That's why we decided to host the Mindrise Summer Series--mini-lessons on getting back to yourself and reconnecting with yourself this summer. I know that I'm going to be working on me so I thought it best to share my favorite tools with you.

As of now, we are planning to host it live via zoom on Thursdays at 1pm EST, 15-20 minute mini lessons for inspiration, life hacks, and a reset with yourself. I'll show you how. Our game plan is for them to be live and send everyone the replay, we'll see how that goes because I've been getting the sneaking suspicion that we are all pretty zoomed out these days and most people want the recording when they want it. We're going live starting Thursday, 6/23 at 1pm EST and we'll see how it goes from there.


You can sign up here (for live or just to grab the replay too).

In the meantime, I'm taking a few days off, hoping on a boat, going to the beach, and going to attempt camping (wish me luck...and any camping advice you might have)... I'll see you all at the Mindrise Summer Series--our first topic will be Taking Back Your Time.

How to Change Who We Are

How many voices do you have in your head? How many versions of you are vying for the talking stick at once, trying to make decisions in your life?

We have the child-self…which often has unhealed wounds we are still operating from…We have our angsty-teenage self…either bucking the system or just dying to rebel…We have our people-pleaser…

…our inner achiever…
…our biggest critic…
…our comparison monster…We have the part of us that doesn't want to fail….
…the part that wants to get it right…
…that wants to be right…
…the part of us that's tired, the part that wants to take charge…the part that wants to lay down…

Inevitably there are lots of parts within ourselves that need to be seen, heard, made valuable, and tended to and this is why humanning can be hard.

This is why the sheer act of committing to tuning in and listening to yourself can be hard. Which version of us is at the wheel when we make decisions? Which version of ourselves is at play when we stress out or overreact, or under react, or allows ourselves to be treated in a way that is less than we deserve?

Sometimes it's old wounds that we get caught up in—old beliefs and narratives that are at play for so long that we don't even recognize whether or not they are actually serving us.

And truth be told, sometimes they are hard to put down. It's incredibly challenging to put down or release something that isn't serving us when it has been familiar to our story about who we are, what we rate capable of, or what the world is like that we have formulated in our heads.


The thing we have to remember is that it's all just words--just narrative that left unchecked or unexamined, can reek havoc in our lives. It's by taking the time to go within and to create time to check in that we can truly ever really fully grow into who we are meant to be and achieve the biggest desires that we have for our life.

Honestly—the ah-ha’s and awarenesses that I have gained from taking this time to allow myself to grow have always repaid me dividends many times over and is in large party the catalyst for writing the new Elevate Journal.

It's a matter of wanting to put a coaching session into everyone's back pocket—a place that you could examine and look within. Journals help us to both make a commitment to ourselves as well as create space to examine and grow.I believe that we only grow in direct correlation to the depth of the questions that we are asking ourselves.

From this depth is sometimes the only way that you can access the deeper connection and relationship to building trust with yourself.

Here's to growing—grab your Elevate Journal now and be sure to register your purchase to get free new meditations and downloads!

Making The Shift > Comparison to Possibility

Making The Shift > Comparison to Possibility

Mindrise Coach, Danielle Ford

Last week I invited a friend to come to yoga with me. My friend politely thanked me for the invitation but declined with an added “I’m not good at yoga”. I replied “there’s no such thing, that’s why they call it a practice” 

Ironically when the point of class came to do inversions, I was in awe of the person next to me who so effortlessly was in a headstand. I literally think she floated into into, while I was laying there getting cozy in a waterfall. 

Then my own words hit me like a ton of bricks. Yoga is a practice, and just because my practice doesn’t yet include a handstand, doesn’t mean it never will. And even if it never happens, that’s okay too. It took a moment of mindfulness and a perspective shift to come to a conclusion I already knew. Comparing myself to others won’t get me any closer to a handstand and in fact all it was doing was taking me out of the moment and out of my own flow.  

It filled me with great joy to take a moment and appreciate the abilities of others in the class. In fact, it opened my eyes to so many possibilities for me and for everyone else in the class. And if I wasn't excited by that, I’d probably have to have stayed on my mat a little longer.

When you look at those around you and see their accomplishments, keep in mind you may be seeing them at the top of the mountain of success. You also might be seeing them just two steps ahead of you. 

Rather than following into the compare, despair trap, try flipping that on its head. 

>> Look at what others have achieved as a motivator for you to continue on your path. Look at what others are able to do as a possibility for you too. The happiness, success, good fortune, love and dreams you desire are already inside of you. What are you going to do today to get yourself one step closer to that goal? 

Are you ready to achieve more? Are you ready to let go of that story in your head about what you can't do? We can help--book your Strategy Session with Mindrise Coach, Danielle Ford now. Click here.

Dare to Dream

Dare to Dream

by Mindrise Coach, Jennifer Wielage


I dare you to dream.  

I dare you to look inside, precious one, and imagine what you are here to create, to experience, to accomplish with this one wild and precious life.

I dare you to discover your soul’s true purpose.   

I dare you to ignore that recurring voice in your head with which you often identify; that critical voice that puts you down, tells you how impossible it will be or reports “fake news” about your potential.

I dare you to remain open to the possibility that this reflection is written specifically for you because, most likely, that voice is telling you this message is for somebody else.

 Are you open to the truth that you have what it takes to shine; to show up for yourself and others in a way that blows your own mind?   Yes, you.   Stay with me.   Remain open.  What if this is for you, the nonbeliever, you who shies away from discomfort; you who have stopped believing in possibility? 

I dare you to try it; whatever it is; no matter how small, ridiculous or impossible it may seem.  I dare you to move just one small step closer to what lights you up, understanding you must crawl before you walk and walk before you run.   

What if you weren’t afraid to feel uncomfortable, awkward, rejected?  What if you welcomed it all and allowed it all?   I dare you.

Because going after our dreams will not be all rainbows, daisies and butterflies.  It will be excruciatingly uncomfortable at times.  Our brains favor familiarity; and pursuing our dreams means embracing the unknown.   I dare you to be uncomfortable and go for it anyway.

I dare you, despite all the evidence your brain will find to dissuade you, to choose to believe you have exactly what it takes.   

Ask yourself this:  what’s on the other side of all this discomfort?   Living your purpose.   I dare you to put your focus on this, taking massive action with unwavering energy.   


Do you dream of starting a nonprofit, driving across the country, becoming a parent, learning to surf, writing a memoir, or even becoming a sign language interpreter?   I dare you to start now.   And no, you’re not too old; too uncoordinated, too disorganized and it’s not a stupid idea.  You are a human, so your brain will offer you all these stories.  I dare you to cast off those negative beliefs that hold you back. 

I dare you not to allow anything or anyone to stand in the way of doing what you were put on this earth to accomplish.  While people will have their opinions, it’s up to you whether or not to listen.  

Instead, tune into the soft voice of the One who knows.   Believe that He is with you, guiding and supporting you each step of the way.    Because you are here for a reason:  to live your best life.  

Do it now.  I dare you!

"The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why."  Mark Twain

Sweat Lodge

He's the kind of guy who calls women 'baby' and men 'big guy.' Like someone from another era. A survivalist. A tracker. I'm pretty sure that if I ever found myself in a deserted island situation, this would be my one phone call.

This weekend, I had the honor of taking part in a sweat lodge. For any of you who don't know what that is, here's a brief download. Not entirely my first rodeo--I experienced a temescal in Tulum, Mexico (you can hear more about that adventure on this podcast). But as we all know, in life--no two experiences are the same.

The first kiss is different than the second--not better or worse, just different.

The first run, the first kid, the first time stepping on brand new soil or visit a new country. It's just different.

This sweat lodge experience was led by a man by the name of Bill Howard. I wish I could tell you his whole story, he's certainly the type of person who has traveled many miles and I'm sure has many stories himself. I can't tell you much because I didn't learn much about him, he's a mentor of a friend of mine. But the point is, there are some people who come into our lives that we don't need to know the whole story about them. Just crossing paths makes a difference to your life having met them.

Bill guided us in constructing the sweat lodge (did I mention this was happening in my backyard?), he educated us on the traditions that he was trained in, and explained the symbolism of practices that have existed long before I ever walked this planet.

The sweat lodge was built from all local pine and bamboo. The fire was constructed from local found wood, pinecones, brush, and leaves. The community came together to build something that didn't previously exist in the space. Think--a pack of barefoot muddy feral children ranging in age from 4 to 12, a couple of curious parents, and my adorable retired neighbors.

To say that it was cool to take part in this sweat lodge is an understatement. It was an honor, a privilege, a blessing of sorts. 

I learned so much more about the land, about people, about what it looks like when kids get out from behind their screens and get creative with a couple of pieces of bamboo and string.

Here's the thing--the whole experience was a departure from my every day. Sure, I could tell you about the temperature inside the lodge or how dark it was inside or the glow of the rocks that has sat under fire for hours. But what I want you to take away from this story is the importance of stepping outside of your comfort zone.

When we step out of our every day routine to try something new--we have the opportunity to meet new people, do new things, and thereby upgrade the trajectory of your life. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

By no means does this trying of something new mean that it has to be something you do forever. It's unlikely that I will spend all of my future weekends foraging for pinecones and hosting regular sweat lodges. But I met new people, heard new stories, and had the opportunity to get outside myself to experience the world from a whole different perspective. And isn't that what life is all about.

How to Stop Judging Yourself (because that's kinda important)

Do you remember Shrinky Dinks; those sheets of polystyrene that you color and bake?  When they come out of the oven, they are ⅓ of the size.

Do you remember Shrinky Dinks; those sheets of polystyrene that you color and bake?  When they come out of the oven, they are ⅓ of the size.

When it comes to your truth and being your most authentic self, are you contracting and shrinking like a Shrinky Dink?

It’s easy at times to get caught up in the mindset of “My opinion/my life doesn’t matter” or “What I have to share is not important.”  

At times, we may question our very existence and wonder why we were ever born in the first place.

Have you, like me, played small for much of your life, bowing to others’ desires or hiding how you feel in order to be liked and accepted?

Although we cannot change the past, we can decide how we want to show up for ourselves and others in the future.

For me, self-doubt has been one of the contributors to my playing small.  It has prevented me from taking actions, remaining stuck in my head rather than courageously putting myself out to actually be seen and heard.

For instance, there are times where I have kept silent rather than speaking my truth.  Rather than lovingly sharing my thoughts and ideas with others, I have often shut down and withdrawn so as not to appear different or countercultural.

I wanted to fit in.  I have been learning to see the difference between “fitting in” and “belonging.”

“Belonging” is when you allow yourself to be exactly who you are and others love you for it.  Belonging is being accepted.  “Fitting in” is pretending to be someone you’re not, trying to conform.

When I am silent out of fear, I shrink and harbor resentment and frustration.

When I worry about others’ opinions of me, my self-confidence weakens and I don’t show up as the strong and secure woman I want to be.

I have been afraid that by sharing my true self, I would be judged by others, but ironically, I was judging myself in advance.  

I have come to see that my truth for my life is valid and when I speak it and embrace it, I feel expansive.  When I deny and withhold it, I shrink.

Having the inner strength to acknowledge the fact that my opinions are completely valid propels me forward to focus on taking action that will make a difference in my corner of the world.

My truth matters. So does yours.  

We are free to think whatever we want and to be whoever we want.

No one can take away that God-given right.

If your truth isn’t being honored and respected by those in your life, you may need to find your tribe.   We can choose to love others from afar.

Finding the people with whom you belong, those who support you and celebrate you for your differences is a beautiful gift.

Always speak your truth with love. God gave you a voice.

Always be your authentic self. You are unique and wonderfully made.

Find where you belong, surrounding yourself with and giving to others love and acceptance.

This is expansion.

“Expanding, growing, becoming more who we already are is our true purpose.” JW

“Life is too short, the world is too big and God’s love is too great to live ordinary.”  Christine Caine

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**Blog from Mindrise Coach, Jennifer Wielage

The Key to Get Out of Your Own Way

We all have those face down in the dirt moments--the ones where the criticism in your head and your thoughts of failure are far louder than any bit of positivity, hope, or desire to try again. We look at our failed attempts and most frustrating moment as a barometer of what it possible for ourselves.

This often causes us to shrink.

To shrink our dreams, our wants, our thoughts about what is possible down to the bare minimum.

And then all the next moves we make are an attempt to keep us safe. We slip into self preservation mode and our subconscious takes over. This can mean a myriad of things but most notably, it's the ways in which we talk ourselves OUT of what we had always wanted to do or thought was possible. It's not so much that we notice ourselves giving up--it's more that we are licking our wounds, recovering our pride, and restoring our sense of equilibrium.

We attempt to "go back to normal," a comfort zone of sorts.

I was talking to a client of mine this week about "The Hero's Journey." Have you heard of it?

It's concepts and process are founded from the work of philosopher, Joseph Campbell. Campbell explains that the hero's journey isn't just for classical heroes, but for all of us. It is, essentially, a path of maturation that all evolving humans follow. “It's a fundamental experience that everyone has to undergo.”

It takes us from the world we have known to navigate the challenges of life and from those challenges, we derive lessons that teach us who we are and what we want in life. Emerging from those experiences, we then develop our "new normal."

This is WHY coaching is so stinking important!! Because when we are faced with the challenges that make us want to give up, having a coach helps us to figure it out.

Having a "plus 1" in your corner is all about...

  1. Shortening the learning curve
  2. Not ALWAYS having to learn the hard way
  3. Learning how to get out of your own way
  4. Ultimately achieving your goals FASTER!!

Ready for a coach? Here's the scoop about working with us. And if having an epic 2022 is on the menu for you, book a 20-minute Strategy Call now.

How to make 2022 not suck

It was the close of the year—wrapping up and recapping with clients, many conversations recalling what went well in 2021 and what we learned, setting the stage for what could be possible in 2022.

I invited everyone to think big—to plan the year in advance, to think about what the next 12 months could hold. The even bigger question being:

“How can we use 2022 to prepare ourselves for 2023?”

Truly, the invitation was to consider how the effort and planning of our goals today stair-stack to the impact we are able to make tomorrow and for many years afterward. Seems obvious but it’s easy for most of us to get stuck in the survival of everyday.

At the close of 2021, as I spoke with clients and friends, family members and people whose names I didn’t know but would also be waiting for their kids to get out of ballet, I noticed a trend.

We were all exhausted.

Yes, some people seemed hopeful but still tired. The year felt like a 365 day race, one in which the option of stopping to rest didn’t seem accessible. It was survival.

That’s not to say that amazing things didn’t happen throughout 2021 but more than anything, it felt like in some ways we were all holding our breath, just trying to make it to the end of the year. Hoping that our weddings, birthday parties, and vacations happened as planned…keeping our fingers crossed that we would stay healthy, our children would go back to school, that some semblance of normal would right itself once again.

And then just like that, it was January 1st, 2022.



Traditionally, a new year brings with it the sparkly new promise of a fresh start or alternatively, the weightiness of expectations that reside in the setting of resolutions. As the year started, my conversations felt different.

There was hope, but a new variety that hadn’t been seen in 2020 or 2021. It wasn’t as much of the finger-crossing, pie in the sky hope of years past either. Instead it felt like, “Well, we might as well get the show on the road.”

Think about it:

With fear—that attitude is met with breath holding.

With excitement—that perspective is met with resolve.

Here’s the thing: I think we’ve all learned that life can change and that we can’t sit waiting around for it to “go back to normal” (2020) or make plans all the while holding our breath in anticipation of the bottom falling out (2021). Both of those approaches are exhausting and leave us feeling powerless.

This year feels different. Somehow, it feels more real. We are all aware of the risks around us—from the ones that are known to the possibility of being met by ones that are still unknown, yet still we choose to carry on.

That’s what 2022 is to me. It about forging ahead. Not waiting for “normal” or living in fear of making plans or doing things in case they get cancelled or that we get sick.

It’s exhausting to live like that.

I think we’ve all learned to pivot and if we continue to live as if we didn’t just spend the last two years learning lessons, stretching ourselves to change, evolve, or become who these experiences have taught us is possible simply seems foolish.

Consider what the past two years has taught you, consider what kind of life you want to live for yourself. And now, let’s forge ahead.

Let’s consider what’s possible, let’s not forget what we have learned and also, let’s not allow those experiences to hold us back either.

It’s about resilience.

We all have the capacity to be resilient.

To sit inside the life that we’ve lived from birth until the day that you are reading these words, and inside that life, look around, take in the experiences and understand that these lessons have happened for you.

Do something with them.

Sometimes we are afraid, and that’s ok. But it doesn’t mean that each of us lack the capacity to make an impact. That’s what I believe being coached allows you to do. It’s about having a “plus 1” in your corner as you do the darn thing—as you forge ahead and create a life that is uniquely yours.

At Mindrise, we’ve mapped out themes for each month this year. Just like the way we coach our clients, we have created monthly themes to help you to get focused and step further into your purpose. Our theme for January is:

New Beginnings/Goal Setting + Staying Committed

“I am the designer of my destiny”

“I am committed to turning my dreams into my reality”


Just what will your 2022 look like?

Click here to schedule your 20 minute Strategy Session now to feel confident on taking action on your goals.

A "Human" New Year

Sometimes we have to make a choice for ourselves. It might go against the grain, it might be disapproved by others, and it might feel very lonely to make your choice. But the truth is that we are all just humans figuring it out one day at a time, one step at a time. Making choices in this life is uncertain, it's always been but if we make the choice that feels most authentic to us, the choice that keeps us in integrity with ourselves, it allows us to recognize the person looking back at us in the mirror every day. Enjoy this reflection on stepping into a "Human" New Year by Mindrise Coach, Jennifer Wielage, she reminds us that we are ALL figuring it out...

A "Human" New Year

by Mindrise Coach, Jennifer Wielage

Recently, some of my family who I love, and who are very dear to me, made it clear they disapproved of a choice that I made for my life.

And because I believe in my decision and value my freedom and autonomy, my choice is non-negotiable.

At the same time, I treasure my relationships. Anyone who knows me knows that connection is high up there on my priority list. I desperately wanted their approval, their support and their acceptance. I didn't want to lose them.

But alas, the reality is that, for the most part, they have withdrawn from my life.

And I am sad.

And that got me thinking: This year, instead of striving for a "happy" New Year, why not instead shoot for a more "human" New Year?

For 2022, my goal is not to be happy. It is to be more fully human.

I want to give myself permission to be more fully myself, allowing and acknowledging all of my feelings. This is how I believe I am going to achieve evolving into the best version of myself.

At the same time, I also want to allow people to be completely themselves, understanding that they are merely humans, too, who are trying to navigate this life in whatever way they think is best for them, at their own level of consciousness.

Happiness is fleeting, but true love remains.

Besides, we are not supposed to be happy all of the time anyway. That would be so weird.

We don't want to be happy when someone dies, when we lose our job or when our friend is hurting.

In fact, we would be considered "out of our minds" if we were happy all of the time.

But on some level, we've forgotten that we aren't supposed to be happy all of the time. We drool over social media posts that feature the most amazing highlight reels of people's best-lived moments.

Thenwhen we are sad, frustrated, anxious, etc., we use it as evidence that there's something wrong with us.

And because we are feeling these "negative" emotions, we often turn to something we think will make us feel happy -- like eating cookies.

And it works!

Eating cookies feels a little like happiness at the moment, giving us that "dopamine hit" that takes us away from feeling negative and transports us to the Land of Happiness -- albeit temporarily.

Everyone handles their negative emotions differently. Some overeat, some overdrink, some binge-watch Netflix, some do even more destructive things to avoid feeling their feelings.

By numbing out, we don't have to feel. These false pleasures eventually leave us even more unhappy, and now we have to deal with the unintended consequences of our actions.

Now we are not only sad, but sad and heavy-set. And we continue to overeat because we are sad and feel horrible about ourselves. We are not only angry, but now we are angry and addicted so we keep reaching for the drugs to cover our shame. We are not only anxious, but we are also sick and when we are sick, we get more anxious and the cycle continues.

In our attempt to avoid our pain, we actually stay stuck in a self-destructive loop -- and we are continually unhappy about being unhappy! The more unhappy we are, the more we do destructive behaviors, trying desperately to get relief. It doesn't work.

I understand.

Feeling the uncomfortable feelings of being human doesn't necessarily feel good.

BUT here's the truth: It's normal to feel bad sometimes, and the full range of emotions are exactly what God intended for our lives.

When we experience all of our emotions, we ultimately become limitless on what we can accomplish and what we can handle. Instead of running away, resisting or reacting to our sadness, our anxiousness, our humiliation, our rejection, we can just simply accept the feelings, process them and keep going and create the life of our dreams, embracing all of it.

What if we weren't afraid to feel any emotion? Can you imagine the things we would try, the steps we would take, the people we would welcome into our lives if we weren't afraid to feel?

Why not allow ourselves to just be human?

What if we just assumed that half the time, we weren't going to feel very good and the other half the time, we were going to feel amazing?

Then when we begin to feel some negative emotions coming up for us, or we are experiencing a difficult time, we can acknowledge it as part of a normal human experience of life. Nothing has gone wrong.

As we step into the New Year, let us be open to all possibilities for what God has in store for us, realizing that humanness, not happiness is the end goal. 

Try on being more human for size. See how that suits you!

Let's allow ourselves the grace to be exactly who we are and accept ourselves and others completely -- as fellow humans also on a journey.

So this year, I will not wish you a happy New Year. Rather, I will wish you a very human New Year!

Let's grow, evolve and become the best humans we can be!

"Every day, think as you wake up: Today, I am fortunate to be alive. I have a precious human life. I am not going to waste it."

Are you ready to say YES to you for 2022? Jen can help! Click here to schedule a 20 minute Strategy Session with our Mindrise Coaches.