Tired? Me too.

Whether it’s late nights, or stress, or trying to get it all done on time, or parties and things to celebrate. We’re tired.

The thing is–we’re not only tired from our time spent or not enough sleep, we’re also tired from the emotional load that we’ve all been carrying.

Whether it’s the emotional load of making quote before the end of the year, navigating family members that we only see a few times a year, feeling our own emotions or grief about the holidays. Let me be the first one to say that it’s a lot, it’s exhausting, and it takes a lot out of you.

Here’s how to fix it–stop “pushing through.”

You probably thought since I wrote the book, Own Your Power that I was going to say, put on your big-person pants and get cracking.

I’m not. I’m actually going to tell you that “pushing through” is making it harder.

Pushing through requires us to push past our emotions and needs, it often requires us to step out of alignment with ourselves or people please, ultimately the whole concept of “pushing through” asks you to put yourself aside and when we do that, we begin to lose pieces of ourselves.

I’m also not writing you a hall pass for Netflix and chill either.

Instead, if you are feeling exhausted and are tired of feeling that way, here’s what TO DO:

Acknowledge what’s hard.

This takes 3 parts:

  1. Name the situation/trigger that’s feeling hard or exhausting
  2. Identify the feelings that are coming up for you (don’t skip this part)
  3. Ask yourself “what do I need?” (then answer the question and do the thing that comes up for you)

Trust me on this one–pushing through is old and worn out, in fact–it’s not working anymore. Let’s try on a new way to do things and you are going to be terrible at this to start. You should be pretty bad at it because you’ve been doing the old/default way for so long, this is a new way of doing things and therefore it’s going to require a bit of compassion and consideration for this transition time.

Asking ourselves what we need and responding accordingly is an act of reparenting ourselves and releasing old reactive trauma wounds (but that’s another story for another day).

Just trust me on this one, it’s time to do things differently. You’ve got this!