I believe we all seek to understand ourselves better--to get a deeper level of insight as to why we do what we do, why we are wired the way we are, who we are meant to be, what is our purpose. To this end, we take quizzes to figure out everything from our pornstar name (the street you grew up on + your first pet’s name, btw) to how many children we will be equipped to handle.
We read books and look for experts. We want gurus, doctors, yogis, frankly even the opinionated guy at the gas station will do to weigh in–sometimes we are seeking validation that we are worthy. Other times we look to outside counsel to affirm that we are correct in what we originally thought. And there are also the times when we don’t want to f*ck it up so we poll everyone within a 30 mile radius for their opinion in an attempt to weigh out the pros and cons but inevitably just making ourselves more confused again.
Overwhelmed with options.
Overwhelmed with uncertainty.
Overwhelmed in feeling like you should know but convincing yourself that you haven’t got a clue.
Ultimately, it comes down to this main point–we all seek to understand ourselves better. To feel solid and grounded in our sense of self, to feel good in our own skin. To know.
To really know. And to be sure.
And in many ways the craving of knowing goes back to a fundamental and biological need for a sense of safety. Even if we are not conscious to it–our understanding of ourselves, our sense of belonging, of being loved, understood, and accepted–all brings us a tremendous internal exhale within our nervous system.
And here’s the deal–it’s ok. It’s ok to enjoy affirmation, confirmation, validation, or just a “you’ve got this.” That why we invite people into our world–to love us, to support us, to offer alternative opinions, to challenge us, to encourage us to rise up, to push us, to play with us, to laugh, to cry, and just about everything in between.
This life is meant to be shared.
Trust yourself first and never hesitate to have a +1 in your corner, that’s what we are here for at Mindrise–to help you rise and make the changes you need to own your power! Ready? Let’s talk–book your 20 minute complimentary 1:1 Strategy Session, we’ll talk and help you to rise!