Growing up, love always felt like a double edge sword to me. I would be head-over-heels, floating on cloud nine, and feeling an unstoppable amount of flow. Then, as we’ve all experienced as some point in time…the fight, break-up, or turbulence would strike. UGH…the other side of the sword. We feel drained, all the wind out of our sails, and sometimes even not seeing a way to feel better. Thankfully, I feel that learning myself and most importantly LOVING myself first helped me to rise above the roller coaster of love. The good news is that today’s Blog Babysitter is a love and passion guru: Stacey Martino believes that it doesn’t take two to tango…really?! Read below to find out why…




One partner can transform the relationship….any relationship!

Magnificent love affairs are not found; they are created. So, stop searching and start building… it’s so worth it.

Sounds great, but how do you actually go about building one? Why do some people have an unshakable love with their partner and an unleashed passion for each other, while others are unhappy, miserable or suffering?

I’m going to let you in on the secret… there is actually a step-by-step formula to creating a magnificent love affair. There are proven tools and strategies that really work to transform any relationship, regardless of the stage you’re currently in.

Maybe you are in love and just want to reignite the passion you once had — to bring the fun back into your relationship. Or maybe you and your partner are hanging on by a thread, or heading for divorce and you need a last-ditch effort to save your relationship. Perhaps you really just need the clarity and certainty to know if this is the right relationship for you, and if not, you need the tools to happily co-parent with your partner as you transition to begin your forever love relationship.

Or you may be in between relationships and you want to transform yourself into the best partner you can be, so you can attract and keep your forever love.

No matter what your situation, there’s no question about it: you must follow these eight key steps to create your unshakable love and unleashed passion:

Step One: Seeing: See your relationship with new eyes by identifying what you “must have” and what you “must NOT have” in your love life.

Step Two: Shifting: Shift your perspective so that you can get unstuck and access the relationship you desire.

Step Three: Strategies: Learn the strategies that will help you understand your partner like never before.

Step Four: Synergy: Discover how to implement a newfound synergy to your relationship, so that you act as a team and STOP keeping score.

Step Five: Start Anew: Start anew by wiping the slate clean – entirely.

Step Six: Sparks! Follow a tested path to ignite the SPARKS and REAL PASSION back into your relationship.

Step Seven: S-Flirt: Find out how you can start “dating your partner” again to keep the energy alive!

Step Eight: Sensuality: Learn how to bring back the sensuality in your relationship to give it a much-needed boost of energy and lust.


Now, maybe you are like a lot of people who come to me with a relationship challenge. Maybe you are feeling a little stuck, frustrated or even helpless because you feel like unless your partner changes, your relationship can’t change. And maybe your partner isn’t really into pursuing books, programs or coaching, so you feel helpless to change your relationship.

And since you’ve been told it takes two to tango, you feel stuck facing two choices: Stay and settle, or go through the pain of leaving…and neither choice appeals to you.

Good news: I’m here to tell you that it does not take two to tango. One person can absolutely transform their intimate relationship and you do not need your partner to participate in the process in order for you to enjoy the results you want in your relationship!

When you make a shift in how you show up in your relationship, on a consistent basis, your partner will shift too and your relationship will transform. Think about it — when you show up differently, act differently and react differently, by definition they will shift because the dynamic between the two of you has changed.

How do I know?

I know because I lived this! Fifteen years ago, my relationship with my husband Paul was hanging by a thread and he was ready to walk away. Somehow, by the grace of God, in a life-changing moment, I made the decision to do what it took to transform our relationship! I dove in, immersed myself in everything I could find on men, women, relationships, and living as my most authentic self.

I really transformed! I was showing up as more of my best and most authentic self, and empowered with the tools and strategies that I was figuring out that really worked! Paul was not doing any of this work at that time, but I noticed that my transformation was having a huge impact on him!

I’m not going to sugar-coat this….it took me a really long time to figure this stuff out. And honestly, there was some “expert advice” that I tried in my relationship that caused so much damage that we almost split up again. But eventually I really found what actually worked, threw out the garbage that didn’t and created a huge shift in our relationship.

After some time, Paul came to be, so inspired by the improvement I had created in our relationship, that he decided to jump in with both feet. So for the last 14 years, we have studied with the greatest experts, invested significantly to create the unshakable love and unleashed passion we enjoy today!

And today, using our proven eight step Relationship Transformation System®, thousands of people around the world are creating their unshakable love and unleashed passion too! And it’s strategically designed for just ONE partner to implement the steps and create the transformation in your relationship!

You have a choice. You can keep going down the path you’re on now, hoping things will get better; hoping a magnificent love affair will just interrupt your day and that your partner will spontaneously transform. But that mentality leads to a lot of pain and hurt. All too often I see good people, just like you, who are hurting. They are “doing” and they are “trying” but what they are doing isn’t working.

There is an easier, simpler, more enjoyable way that will prove to be a success. The proven step-by-step formula and tools really work so you can create the relationship you want today. You can actually be loved for your most authentic self, and you can create a passion way hotter than it was when you were dating….even after 20 years (or more)!

I believe that your relationship is WORTH doing the work for because it impacts every day, hour and minute of your life! You deserve to have the relationship of your dreams. I know that you can create the relationship you truly want, because my clients prove it every day.

But don’t take my word for it….try it for yourself! Download our free audio program “How to Transform Your Relationship in Eight Steps” and begin experiencing the shift you want today!  I hope we get to meet one day, either in one of our online programs or even in person, at one of our live events! Please let us know how we can best serve you. You can reach us at

Sending love,


p.s. Click here to download your “How to Transform Your Relationship in Eight Steps” audio program.

p.p.s Click here for details on our next live event, The Relationship Breakthrough Retreat!

Stacey Martino helps people who feel stuck, frustrated and helpless with the challenges that intimate relationship brings. Stacey firmly believes that it absolutely does NOT take two to tango! Through targeted, strategic private coaching, programs and events for her Relationship Transformation System™, Stacey empowers you to transform your intimate relationship without your partner needing to participate.

Trained and certified by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes, Stacey is a certified marriage educator and divorce preventionist.

Are you ready to figure out what’s holding you back? I would love to see how I can help. Click here to speak with my team and find out how you can make a shift in your life.